Bucket lists

The other day, my son was talking about his bucket list. Pretty funny coming from a ten year old, but I’m guessing he simply meant “stuff I want to do sooner rather than later” as opposed to “stuff I want to do before I die”. His list had some untold number of car-related items on it, along with a whole lot of other stuff he already does on a regular basis. It was more like these-are-a-few-of-my-favorite-things than anything else.

But it got me thinking… what would I put on my own list? Finish my novel? Maybe… But finishing the book is beginning to feel more like a job than a dream, so I’m not sure it’s actual bucket list material.

In just 9 days we leave for California. Sometimes I think that demands its very own list. In the car the other day, my son told me the first thing he wants to do is find Jay Leno’s garage. I’m not going to comment on that one. I think it would be easier to win the lottery, but he’s been consulting google maps and following little clues he’s found online, and frankly, I wouldn’t be surprised if he ends up with a golden ticket.

You know what my son’s bucket list tells me? It tells me that he loves life, that he has tremendous enthusiasm and optimism and that in spite of his challenges and the often disheartening experiences he struggles through in the classroom, he’s a kid with a dream and some long term goals.

I want him to know how big this world is, how much opportunity there is out there, and that it is very possible to take what you love and turn it into a life. He doesn’t have to follow a traditional path, he doesn’t have to want what his friends want, he just has to stay true to himself.

If I could rewrite his bucket list for him, this is what I would write:

1. Believe in the possibilities

4 thoughts on “Bucket lists

  1. …and I’m just wanting to be somewhere in that bucket as he moves through fulfilling that list as I’m sure he will…

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  3. I like this post a lot. It’s important that he know there are many different paths that someone can take in their life and what’s good for one is not good for another. I think it’s good that he has you and you’re not trying to enforce your own dreams and desires on him.

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